As time elapsed I have got accustomed to my new life,which is abit busy and filled enough.To be blunt I still have some reluctance about what I have been busy with,is it my real goal I have been pursuing all the time？Last Fri I dined with Coco,whom is a idol in my mind,a real doggy persistent gal in pursuit of her dream and makes it in the shortest time,and we had a nice chatting after one-year absence,indeed I have learnt a lot from her!But I’m abit afraid whether I will work better at the same age of her,you know I am a man with more to shoulder and should be.Last time after strolling around sat still in the center of my campus I did recall so much about the 2 years past and look on what is going on the next years.I have to say SORRY to someone coz I don’t want to lie to you,I am not kinda person being met with presence,I have my own guts and never stop to realize something,even though a litter perplexed at first I do know I have not gone so far away from my destination.I’m old enough to be seasoned or secular to think about reality instead of something like bicycling around with you in white innocent skirt.Hopefully everything will go smoothly and I have never been too far away from my ultimate goal.

A bit depressed these 2 days ,what happened on me?I have got no idea!I find myself devoured by sth unwittingly mouth by mouth,but what that is?This kinda life seems glorious enough in other ppl’s eyes,but is it the one I need urgently?Being as a White-collar,working in some company belonged to FESCO and worldwide,living in CBD of this city,why the unusual loneliness lies beneath my mind still?Why at present I wanna cry out and let my tears down?Maybe I miss someone who can be with you really?How about you？N how ya doing in the city one hr ahead.Aussie Jap and U.S. deem to be the place whre each time my heart gets incarnation.I do hav the aversion to the city I m living now which leaves nothing but all those awkward.But after 6 sixes spending here why do I adopt here still?Coz of the biggest springboard itself?Where is my ideal life?Thre is gradual distant away from that,isn’t thre?Hopefully Not!Why cannot I grasp the breath of Takura?Whre is the Hiro actually sit?Why cannot I arrive thre?Is it not in order to be thre,is it???SO when is the right time?Can you tell me?Why I m now seeming so helpless?

 

The music sung by Rurutia,who is from JP,is now around my ears!The tears in mind trick down heavily like a blissful rain which is a pun,the Rurutia means same in Tahitian.Pls lend me a hand to hold me from the precipice in front…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

                                                       

 

 

Intimacy

Why I always feel wronged since the intimacy between us occurs

No evidence of being loved sadly I can find

When to set off,when to desert

I have no gut to embrace you,honey

 

Here,right here I can be with you

Due to the parameters,sorry we cannot

A bit road left to love even if we have transcended the friendship only

That sight in the distance is something about to start raining

Is it a propriety to weep

How deep I am pining away after you

Why is it turned to me to bear

Contemplation I have begun

Why are you so visibly close but factually distant to me？

 

Why I always feel wronged since the intimacy between us occurs

No evidence of being loved sadly I can find

When to set off,when to desert

I have no gut to embrace you,honey

Ravenous for more ‘cause of the intimacy

But nothing meaningful at all till the end of long-term waiting

However pitifully the relationship doesn’t go anywhere

Only have to abandon our love here

Oops oops oops

 

Just as the fairytale tells,on the day the virgin snow occurs if we had a date our love would last for long…Wherever the Kyoto or Seoul will you come in accord with our promises once?

 

Hatsuyuki no koi（Virgin Snow）

Plot

Min, a Korean boy, moves to Japan with his father who is a potter. One day at a local shrine, he meets Nanae, a beautiful Japanese girl with stunning eyes who is aspiring to be a painter. Min falls in love at first sight and finds out that Nanae attends the school to which he has just transferred. Their friendship develops fast despite their cultural and language difference. Yet when Min's grandmother suddenly falls ill, Min hastily returns to Korea without having the time to explain Nanae the situation. After his grandmother regains her health, Min hurries back to Japan but Nane is nowhere to be found. Had his true feelings for Nanae not been apparent to her? Why has Nanae disappeared without a word?

Cast

Lee Jun Ki as Kim-min

Aoi Miyazaki as Sasaki Nanae

Kimiko Yo

Otoha

Ayaka Morita

Shun Shioya

Miyu Yagyu

Lee-hwan as Kim Do-hyeon

Reviews：

"Virgin Snow" is coproduction between Japan and South Korea.

 

Language barrier is not a barrier at all when it comes to Love.

 

I've seen a Korean movie after along time even though my logic kept requesting me not to do that as its my exam time. But I have to say that it was worth it. Though the movie has a theme which is very common in Korean movies but it has touched a few areas which are rare. I was praying for the movie not to end but it end and left me very emotional. The coordination and contrast between Japanese and Korean is shown in a good fashion. The story moves around a Korean boy who meets a Japanese girl in Kyoto and many events starts to take place between them which seems quite natural. Like many Korean movies it starts with the comic flavor, get romantic and becomes very sentimental as the story builds on. The ending is something that everyone like and hope to see. If you are an emotional guy or gal then you may feel a lump in your throat as the movie ends. It also shows a few things about Japanese culture as most of the movie events occur in Kyoto, Japan. You may learn a few words of Japanese language and get a good taste it. One may not be impressed by the story as nothing is new in it but its a very good pastime and I am sure you will be entertained and thats what a movie is all about, isn't it?

 

The commencement speech at Stanford University by Oprah in 2008

Thank you, President Hennessy, and to the trustees and the faculty, to all of the parents and grandparents, to you, the Stanford graduates. Thank you for letting me share this amazing day with you.

I need to begin by letting everyone in on a little secret. The secret is that Kirby Bumpus, Stanford Class of '08, is my goddaughter. So, I was thrilled when President Hennessy asked me to be your Commencement speaker, because this is the first time I've been allowed on campus since Kirby's been here.

You see, Kirby's a very smart girl. She wants people to get to know her on her own terms, she says. Not in terms of who she knows. So, she never wants anyone who's first meeting her to know that I know her and she knows me. So, when she first came to Stanford for new student orientation with her mom, I hear that they arrived and everybody was so welcoming, and somebody came up to Kirby and they said, "Ohmigod, that's Gayle King!" Because a lot of people know Gayle King as my BFF [best friend forever].

And so somebody comes up to Kirby, and they say, "Ohmigod, is that Gayle King?" And Kirby's like, "Uh-huh. She's my mom."

And so the person says, "Ohmigod, does it mean, like, you know Oprah Winfrey?"

And Kirby says, "Sort of."

I said, "Sort of? You sort of know me?" Well, I have photographic proof. I have pictures which I can e-mail to you all of Kirby riding horsey with me on all fours. So, I more than sort-of know Kirby Bumpus. And I'm so happy to be here, just happy that I finally, after four years, get to see her room. There's really nowhere else I'd rather be, because I'm so proud of Kirby, who graduates today with two degrees, one in human bio and the other in psychology. Love you, Kirby Cakes! That's how well I know her. I can call her Cakes.

And so proud of her mother and father, who helped her get through this time, and her brother, Will. I really had nothing to do with her graduating from Stanford, but every time anybody's asked me in the past couple of weeks what I was doing, I would say, "I'm getting ready to go to Stanford."

I just love saying "Stanford." Because the truth is, I know I would have never gotten my degree at all, 'cause I didn't go to Stanford. I went to Tennessee State University. But I never would have gotten my diploma at all, because I was supposed to graduate back in 1975, but I was short one credit. And I figured, I'm just going to forget it, 'cause, you know, I'm not going to march with my class. Because by that point, I was already on television. I'd been in television since I was 19 and a sophomore. Granted, I was the only television anchor person that had an 11 o'clock curfew doing the 10 o'clock news.

Seriously, my dad was like, "Well, that news is over at 10:30. Be home by 11."

But that didn't matter to me, because I was earning a living. I was on my way. So, I thought, I'm going to let this college thing go and I only had one credit short. But, my father, from that time on and for years after, was always on my case, because I did not graduate. He'd say, "Oprah Gail"—that's my middle name—"I don't know what you're gonna do without that degree." And I'd say, "But, Dad, I have my own television show."

And he'd say, "Well, I still don't know what you're going to do without that degree."

And I'd say, "But, Dad, now I'm a talk show host." He'd say, "I don't know how you're going to get another job without that degree."

So, in 1987, Tennessee State University invited me back to speak at their commencement. By then, I had my own show, was nationally syndicated. I'd made a movie, had been nominated for an Oscar and founded my company, Harpo. But I told them, I cannot come and give a speech unless I can earn one more credit, because my dad's still saying I'm not going to get anywhere without that degree.

So, I finished my coursework, I turned in my final paper and I got the degree.

And my dad was very proud. And I know that, if anything happens, that one credit will be my salvation.

But I also know why my dad was insisting on that diploma, because, as B. B. King put it, "The beautiful thing about learning is that nobody can take that away from you." And learning is really in the broadest sense what I want to talk about today, because your education, of course, isn't ending here. In many ways, it's only just begun.

The world has so many lessons to teach you. I consider the world, this Earth, to be like a school and our life the classrooms. And sometimes here in this Planet Earth school the lessons often come dressed up as detours or roadblocks. And sometimes as full-blown crises. And the secret I've learned to getting ahead is being open to the lessons, lessons from the grandest university of all, that is, the universe itself.

It's being able to walk through life eager and open to self-improvement and that which is going to best help you evolve, 'cause that's really why we're here, to evolve as human beings. To grow into more of ourselves, always moving to the next level of understanding, the next level of compassion and growth.

I think about one of the greatest compliments I've ever received: I interviewed with a reporter when I was first starting out in Chicago. And then many years later, I saw the same reporter. And she said to me, "You know what? You really haven't changed. You've just become more of yourself."

And that is really what we're all trying to do, become more of ourselves. And I believe that there's a lesson in almost everything that you do and every experience, and getting the lesson is how you move forward. It's how you enrich your spirit. And, trust me, I know that inner wisdom is more precious than wealth. The more you spend it, the more you gain.

So, today, I just want to share a few lessons—meaning three—that I've learned in my journey so far. And aren't you glad? Don't you hate it when somebody says, "I'm going to share a few," and it's 10 lessons later? And, you're like, "Listen, this is my graduation. This is not about you." So, it's only going to be three.

The three lessons that have had the greatest impact on my life have to do with feelings, with failure and with finding happiness.

A year after I left college, I was given the opportunity to co-anchor the 6 o'clock news in Baltimore, because the whole goal in the media at the time I was coming up was you try to move to larger markets. And Baltimore was a much larger market than Nashville. So, getting the 6 o'clock news co-anchor job at 22 was such a big deal. It felt like the biggest deal in the world at the time.

And I was so proud, because I was finally going to have my chance to be like Barbara Walters, which is who I had been trying to emulate since the start of my TV career. So, I was 22 years old, making $22,000 a year. And it's where I met my best friend, Gayle, who was an intern at the same TV station. And once we became friends, we'd say, "Ohmigod, I can't believe it! You're making $22,000 and you're only 22. Imagine when you're 40 and you're making $40,000!"

When I turned 40, I was so glad that didn't happen.

So, here I am, 22, making $22,000 a year and, yet, it didn't feel right. It didn't feel right. The first sign, as President Hennessy was saying, was when they tried to change my name. The news director said to me at the time, "Nobody's going to remember Oprah. So, we want to change your name. We've come up with a name we think that people will remember and people will like. It's a friendly name: Suzie."

Hi, Suzie. Very friendly. You can't be angry with Suzie. Remember Suzie. But my name wasn't Suzie. And, you know, I'd grown up not really loving my name, because when you're looking for your little name on the lunch boxes and the license plate tags, you're never going to find Oprah.

So, I grew up not loving the name, but once I was asked to change it, I thought, well, it is my name and do I look like a Suzie to you? So, I thought, no, it doesn't feel right. I'm not going to change my name. And if people remember it or not, that's OK.

And then they said they didn't like the way I looked. This was in 1976, when your boss could call you in and say, "I don't like the way you look." Now that would be called a lawsuit, but back then they could just say, "I don't like the way you look." Which, in case some of you in the back, if you can't tell, is nothing like Barbara Walters. So, they sent me to a salon where they gave me a perm, and after a few days all my hair fell out and I had to shave my head. And then they really didn't like the way I looked.

Because now I am black and bald and sitting on TV. Not a pretty picture.But even worse than being bald, I really hated, hated, hated being sent to report on other people's tragedies as a part of my daily duty, knowing that I was just expected to observe, when everything in my instinct told me that I should be doing something, I should be lending a hand.

So, as President Hennessy said, I'd cover a fire and then I'd go back and I'd try to give the victims blankets. And I wouldn't be able to sleep at night because of all the things I was covering during the day.

And, meanwhile, I was trying to sit gracefully like Barbara and make myself talk like Barbara. And I thought, well, I could make a pretty goofy Barbara. And if I could figure out how to be myself, I could be a pretty good Oprah. I was trying to sound elegant like Barbara. And sometimes I didn't read my copy, because something inside me said, this should be spontaneous. So, I wanted to get the news as I was giving it to the people. So, sometimes, I wouldn't read my copy and it would be, like, six people on a pileup on I-40. Oh, my goodness.

And sometimes I wouldn't read the copy—because I wanted to be spontaneous—and I'd come across a list of words I didn't know and I'd mispronounce. And one day I was reading copy and I called Canada "ca nada." And I decided, this Barbara thing's not going too well. I should try being myself.

But at the same time, my dad was saying, "Oprah Gail, this is an opportunity of a lifetime. You better keep that job." And my boss was saying, "This is the nightly news. You're an anchor, not a social worker. Just do your job."

So, I was juggling these messages of expectation and obligation and feeling really miserable with myself. I'd go home at night and fill up my journals, 'cause I've kept a journal since I was 15—so I now have volumes of journals. So, I'd go home at night and fill up my journals about how miserable I was and frustrated. Then I'd eat my anxiety. That's where I learned that habit.

And after eight months, I lost that job. They said I was too emotional. I was too much. But since they didn't want to pay out the contract, they put me on a talk show in Baltimore. And the moment I sat down on that show, the moment I did, I felt like I'd come home. I realized that TV could be more than just a playground, but a platform for service, for helping other people lift their lives. And the moment I sat down, doing that talk show, it felt like breathing. It felt right. And that's where everything that followed for me began.

And I got that lesson. When you're doing the work you're meant to do, it feels right and every day is a bonus, regardless of what you're getting paid.

It's true. And how do you know when you're doing something right? How do you know that? It feels so. What I know now is that feelings are really your GPS system for life. When you're supposed to do something or not supposed to do something, your emotional guidance system lets you know. The trick is to learn to check your ego at the door and start checking your gut instead. Every right decision I've made—every right decision I've ever made—has come from my gut. And every wrong decision I've ever made was a result of me not listening to the greater voice of myself.

If it doesn't feel right, don't do it. That's the lesson. And that lesson alone will save you, my friends, a lot of grief. Even doubt means don't. This is what I've learned. There are many times when you don't know what to do. When you don't know what to do, get still, get very still, until you do know what to do.

And when you do get still and let your internal motivation be the driver, not only will your personal life improve, but you will gain a competitive edge in the working world as well. Because, as Daniel Pink writes in his best-seller, A Whole New Mind, we're entering a whole new age. And he calls it the Conceptual Age, where traits that set people apart today are going to come from our hearts—right brain—as well as our heads. It's no longer just the logical, linear, rules-based thinking that matters, he says. It's also empathy and joyfulness and purpose, inner traits that have transcendent worth.

These qualities bloom when we're doing what we love, when we're involving the wholeness of ourselves in our work, both our expertise and our emotion.

So, I say to you, forget about the fast lane. If you really want to fly, just harness your power to your passion. Honor your calling. Everybody has one. Trust your heart and success will come to you.

So, how do I define success? Let me tell you, money's pretty nice. I'm not going to stand up here and tell you that it's not about money, 'cause money is very nice. I like money. It's good for buying things.

But having a lot of money does not automatically make you a successful person. What you want is money and meaning. You want your work to be meaningful. Because meaning is what brings the real richness to your life. What you really want is to be surrounded by people you trust and treasure and by people who cherish you. That's when you're really rich.

So, lesson one, follow your feelings. If it feels right, move forward. If it doesn't feel right, don't do it.

Now I want to talk a little bit about failings, because nobody's journey is seamless or smooth. We all stumble. We all have setbacks. If things go wrong, you hit a dead end—as you will—it's just life's way of saying time to change course. So, ask every failure—this is what I do with every failure, every crisis, every difficult time—I say, what is this here to teach me? And as soon as you get the lesson, you get to move on. If you really get the lesson, you pass and you don't have to repeat the class. If you don't get the lesson, it shows up wearing another pair of pants—or skirt—to give you some remedial work.

And what I've found is that difficulties come when you don't pay attention to life's whisper, because life always whispers to you first. And if you ignore the whisper, sooner or later you'll get a scream. Whatever you resist persists. But, if you ask the right question—not why is this happening, but what is this here to teach me?—it puts you in the place and space to get the lesson you need.

My friend Eckhart Tolle, who's written this wonderful book called A New Earth that's all about letting the awareness of who you are stimulate everything that you do, he puts it like this: He says, don't react against a bad situation; merge with that situation instead. And the solution will arise from the challenge. Because surrendering yourself doesn't mean giving up; it means acting with responsibility.

Many of you know that, as President Hennessy said, I started this school in Africa. And I founded the school, where I'm trying to give South African girls a shot at a future like yours—Stanford. And I spent five years making sure that school would be as beautiful as the students. I wanted every girl to feel her worth reflected in her surroundings. So, I checked every blueprint, I picked every pillow. I was looking at the grout in between the bricks. I knew every thread count of the sheets. I chose every girl from the villages, from nine provinces. And yet, last fall, I was faced with a crisis I had never anticipated. I was told that one of the dorm matrons was suspected of sexual abuse.

That was, as you can imagine, devastating news. First, I cried—actually, I sobbed—for about half an hour. And then I said, let's get to it; that's all you get, a half an hour. You need to focus on the now, what you need to do now. So, I contacted a child trauma specialist. I put together a team of investigators. I made sure the girls had counseling and support. And Gayle and I got on a plane and flew to South Africa.

And the whole time I kept asking that question: What is this here to teach me? And, as difficult as that experience has been, I got a lot of lessons. I understand now the mistakes I made, because I had been paying attention to all of the wrong things. I'd built that school from the outside in, when what really mattered was the inside out.

So, it's a lesson that applies to all of our lives as a whole. What matters most is what's inside. What matters most is the sense of integrity, of quality and beauty. I got that lesson. And what I know is that the girls came away with something, too. They have emerged from this more resilient and knowing that their voices have power.

And their resilience and spirit have given me more than I could ever give to them, which leads me to my final lesson—the one about finding happiness—which we could talk about all day, but I know you have other wacky things to do.

Not a small topic this is, finding happiness. But in some ways I think it's the simplest of all. Gwendolyn Brooks wrote a poem for her children. It's called "Speech to the Young : Speech to the Progress-Toward." And she says at the end, "Live not for battles won. / Live not for the-end-of-the-song. / Live in the along." She's saying, like Eckhart Tolle, that you have to live for the present. You have to be in the moment. Whatever has happened to you in your past has no power over this present moment, because life is now.

But I think she's also saying, be a part of something. Don't live for yourself alone. This is what I know for sure: In order to be truly happy, you must live along with and you have to stand for something larger than yourself. Because life is a reciprocal exchange. To move forward you have to give back. And to me, that is the greatest lesson of life. To be happy, you have to give something back.

I know you know that, because that's a lesson that's woven into the very fabric of this university. It's a lesson that Jane and Leland Stanford got and one they've bequeathed to you. Because all of you know the story of how this great school came to be, how the Stanfords lost their only child to typhoid at the age of 15. They had every right and they had every reason to turn their backs against the world at that time, but instead, they channeled their grief and their pain into an act of grace. Within a year of their son's death, they had made the founding grant for this great school, pledging to do for other people's children what they were not able to do for their own boy.

The lesson here is clear, and that is, if you're hurting, you need to help somebody ease their hurt. If you're in pain, help somebody else's pain. And when you're in a mess, you get yourself out of the mess helping somebody out of theirs. And in the process, you get to become a member of what I call the greatest fellowship of all, the sorority of compassion and the fraternity of service.

The Stanfords had suffered the worst thing any mom and dad can ever endure, yet they understood that helping others is the way we help ourselves. And this wisdom is increasingly supported by scientific and sociological research. It's no longer just woo-woo soft-skills talk. There's actually a helper's high, a spiritual surge you gain from serving others. So, if you want to feel good, you have to go out and do some good.

But when you do good, I hope you strive for more than just the good feeling that service provides, because I know this for sure, that doing good actually makes you better. So, whatever field you choose, if you operate from the paradigm of service, I know your life will have more value and you will be happy.

I was always happy doing my talk show, but that happiness reached a depth of fulfillment, of joy, that I really can't describe to you or measure when I stopped just being on TV and looking at TV as a job and decided to use television, to use it and not have it use me, to use it as a platform to serve my viewers. That alone changed the trajectory of my success.

So, I know this—that whether you're an actor, you offer your talent in the way that most inspires art. If you're an anatomist, you look at your gift as knowledge and service to healing. Whether you've been called, as so many of you here today getting doctorates and other degrees, to the professions of business, law, engineering, humanities, science, medicine, if you choose to offer your skills and talent in service, when you choose the paradigm of service, looking at life through that paradigm, it turns everything you do from a job into a gift. And I know you haven't spent all this time at Stanford just to go out and get a job.

You've been enriched in countless ways. There's no better way to make your mark on the world and to share that abundance with others. My constant prayer for myself is to be used in service for the greater good.

So, let me end with one of my favorite quotes from Martin Luther King. Dr. King said, "Not everybody can be famous." And I don't know, but everybody today seems to want to be famous.

But fame is a trip. People follow you to the bathroom, listen to you pee. It's just—try to pee quietly. It doesn't matter, they come out and say, "Ohmigod, it's you. You peed."

That's the fame trip, so I don't know if you want that.

So, Dr. King said, "Not everybody can be famous. But everybody can be great, because greatness is determined by service." Those of you who are history scholars may know the rest of that passage. He said, "You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You don't have to know about Plato or Aristotle to serve. You don't have to know Einstein's theory of relativity to serve. You don't have to know the second theory of thermodynamics in physics to serve. You only need a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love."

In a few moments, you'll all be officially Stanford's '08.

You have the heart and the smarts to go with it. And it's up to you to decide, really, where will you now use those gifts? You've got the diploma, so go out and get the lessons, 'cause I know great things are sure to come.

You know, I've always believed that everything is better when you share it, so before I go, I wanted to share a graduation gift with you. Underneath your seats you'll find two of my favorite books. Eckhart Tolle's A New Earth is my current book club selection. Our New Earth webcast has been downloaded 30 million times with that book. And Daniel Pink's A Whole New Mind: Why Right-Brainers Will Rule the Future has reassured me I'm in the right direction.

I really wanted to give you cars but I just couldn't pull that off!

Congratulations, '08!Thank you. Thank you.

 

<if only>is a flicker that touches me too much,n really elicits all of my sympathy and tears ..tho it was a onu-of-fashion one that cannot wipe out the shining luster still!Strongly recommende here...

 

If Only (film)

PLOT

Ian Wyndham (Nicholls) is a British Businessman who is in love with his musician girlfriend Samantha Andrews (Hewitt), but lately his job has taken priority. One day, in the streets of London, Samantha dies after they had a fight. An inconsolable Ian goes back to bed alone. When he wakes up he finds that he is given a second chance to relive the day all over again, and maybe this time he will get things right.

Production and distribution

Filming was done between November 2002 and January 2003. The movie made its world premiere at the Sarasota Film Festival in January 2004. However it was not picked up for US distribution. It went on to play around the world throughout late 2004 and 2005. American audiences were finally given a chance to see this film when it premiered on the American ABC Family television network on January 15, 2006.

 

Review Summary

A lonely singer/songwriter and the man of her dreams take a second shot at love after fate intervenes into their romance in a tearful tale of destiny starring Jennifer Love Hewitt and Paul Nicholls. Samantha Andrews (Hewitt) was studying classical music in London when she first met Ian Wyndham (Nicholls), and the moment they locked eyes both new that it was love at first sight. Their storybook romance takes a turn for the tragic, however, when Samantha dies in a horrific accident shortly after the pair have their first major argument. Stricken by inconsolable grief and touched by the forgiving hand of merciful fate, Ian now has one chance to take it all back and relive that fateful days before he truly loses the love of his life once and for all. ~ Jason Buchanan, All Movie Guide

 

Best movie I have seen in a long time!!

I agree, bring the kleenex. If you don't cry you don't have a heart. I will watch this movie over and over. I never knew that Jennifer Love Hewitt could also sing but sh eis wonderful. I only wish I could find some one that loved me as they loved each other!!

 

If Only

"If Only" is really a Fabulous movie....It tells about that truth of future which we can never realize in the present...but when that present become fast then we can actually think of the message this movie conveys....

I had someone in my life...someone so beautiful...someone so innocent...someone so loveable...just like Smantha in if only....but unfortunately i never had a dream...i never get a chance imagine my life without her...i never get a chance to realize what i feel for her...and suddenly i made a mistake and she left me forever.... and i really wanna tell her how i felt for her...i wanna tell her how much she completed me...i wanna tell her what she means to me...But i will never get a chance to tell her...Oh goddd.......

— staneja

 

Bring the Kleenex!

"If Only" is a good movie about love, fate and the inevitable. Ian is a self-centered businessman, English by the way, who soon gets a chance to have one day to save his love's life; Samantha is played by Jennifer Love Hewitt. This story is wonderful, sad and worth watching. This isn't the movie where you quietly cry; you cry throughout and even after the movie is finished. When you want or need a good cry, watch this movie. The acting is superb and I highly recommend this film as one of the best love stories ever told.

 

This movie means alot to me

I cried most of the way through this movie.Right now I am going through a really hard time in my life. It is so hard when you love someone so much.Life is short,as the character shows in the movie...One should always show their love the depth of their love everyday and remind them that they are loved in so many ways. Tomorrow may be too late. If love ends, you both lose. Live like there is no tomorrow...hold the one you love today.

— webxmoviesrnr

 

The winter really comes around

 

Leaves fell on ground before long the summers goes                              

Still mute the clouds are in the distance

Just as the feelings in mind waxes instead of waning

Winter comes again before long my farewell sent to last year

Too great the transformation of the world just in one year

The feelings of changing unbelievably to the worlds brought by time

 

oh~Friend

Oh~Friend

My pining after you is so strong

Right now aching my heart so much

So far away from you pitifully

The joyous expressions appeared on my friend’s child

If we still held love to each other

Maybe some scenes like this would also come in our eyes

 

oh~Friend

Oh~Friend

My pining after you is so strong

Right now aching my heart so much

How many years has passed

 

oh~Friend

Oh~Friend

My pining after you is so strong

Right now aching my heart

So far away from you pitifully

 

Friend~

Friend~

Expand one’s sex horizon
The man on top , woman on top and doggie style

Rapidly improve your sex life
Some positions can make man things seems bigger, others make it more comfortable

A woman can make her vagina tighter or looser depend on the way she moves her body.
Deeper penetration and juice stimulation

There is 25% of women achieve orgasm only through penetration
Improve communication and intimacy between you and your partner
You don’t have to be a master having great sex, but doing the same thing time and time again should be the thing of past.

Oral sex
cunnilingus
easy access to the clitoris

Fellatio
the woman looks the man straight in the eyes
if he can see that you are enjoy it then he can get from it even more
one kneel and one standing is a great experience
some time for the size of man’s penis approaching the penis from side maybe easy,also ready to touch the balls and sextoy if you are into that kind of thing
try from behind, lick anus with your tongue.

Sitting on the face
Ejected on the face
Deep throat woman is laying and man is kneeling behind the woman’s head like 6:45
The 69 position giving and receiving at the same time side by side double thrilling

tips try approaching oral sex from new angle
try incorporating sex toys in your oral games
Tips:
Deep throat need practice to overcome gagging.
‘69’ is the best- and most equal-side by side

Man on top
missionary
This is the best way of having sex since you can feel your skin and heart beating next to each other which makes you realize you are making love rather than having sex

Feeling your lover’s skin and your heart beating next to each other is a great way to make love rather than have sex,there is many variations available
Pubis
pubic bone
rub your clitoris
plough
anvil

Angle is very important
pillow lift

underneath her hips
the burn lift
over the edge
jumping frog
coital alignment technique

legging
buttock clench
touch the balls
don’t do it without ask first
Tips
use oil or lubricant for sensual sliding
increase penetration with a pillow
try keeping your legs together and clenching your buttocks

flex those muscles
make circular movement with your pelvis
stimulate all erogenous zone not just the obvious
try some anal play
press that perineum
try massaging her clitoris and stroking his testicles

WOMAN ON TOP
Like the woman ride the man
When she is hard to come

The leg lift
Raised kneeling
Nipple being pinched or sucked
The grip
10 time light one then 1,2 ,3 plus
The head rush
Stop and start technique
The reverse cowgirl

Tips:
Use hands all over to enhance sensation
Try letting your blood rush to your head
Look into each other’ s eyes
Tease each other’s nipples
Try clitoral stimulation by either of you
Experiment with anal play

SIDE BY SIDE
SPOON
Spooning
Feeling him all the way down my back and being hugged

Roll on to your sides
Not long enough, woman bend her leg is better,like scissors
Relaxing and romantic position
Side by side could be a great wake up call
It’s great for slow exploring each other’s bodies
Side by side position is good for larger/pregnant people
Don’t forget plenty of clitoral stimulation
Add decadent thrills with champagne and foods

FROM BEHIEND
DOGGIE STYLE
Really act like a dog
Smell the A Zone
Just add toys for man as well as woman
Masturbation is always positive especially when share
Look out to some new zone to explore

SITTING AND STANDING
The straddle
Try spreading your legs and tensing your muscles
Vary the location and take your partner by surprise
Try figure-of-eighting with your hips: don’t just Thrust

The cross position
The chain
The turn
The crane
The three point star
The pull up
The foot slide
The wheelbarrow
The crap
The L shape
The 4 point style
The back flip
Sex on the stairs
In a car front seats

Tips:
vary the location ,sex is not just for the bedroom
try varying the angle of penetration
Communicate-and try not to take sex too seriously

ANAL SEX
Spooning and missionary are good beginner positons.
Woman on top can be tricky for anal sex
Try the wheelbarrow if you need an advanced position
Never feel pressured into anal sex
Never pressure anyone into anall sex
It could be something new to try and enjoy

Matthew Emmons

Matthew Emmons,a name which is probably not known by many people, really got my attention today. If you knew him, then you probably did from the 2004 Athens Olympic game. He was in the final of the 50m rifle three positions shooting competition that time and he was leading after the 9th shot, gold medal was at his fingertips. But something terrible happened in the last shot. He accidentally cross-fired (shot on another person's target) and lost the chance of winning gold medal, he finished 8th.

 

He was devastated, no doubt. Olympic gold medal was so close and then suddenly gone within seconds. I could not imagine the emotions that went through his mind. Luck was definitely not on his side when he pulled that last trigger. But still he wasn't all out of luck.

Katerina, a Czech shooter who was competing at the same Olympic games as well, felt that she had to have a word with Matthew, because she had a bad game that day too. And so that's how Matthew met his wife. He lost his gold medal, but in the end, he met the love of his life. They tied the knot in 2007.

Both husband and wife came back for the 2008 Olympic games. Katerina managed to grab gold in the 10m air rifle, which is the 1st gold of this year's Olympic. That was when I started to notice Katerina because she defeated China's Du Li. Her husband was there to congratulate her, but I didn't know about their relationship then.

Today, Matthew competed in the 50m rifle three positions again, trying to get the gold medal which he should 4 years ago. After the qualifying round, he was in the first place, entering the final 10 shots. 9 shots was fired by the finalists and Matthew was 3.3 points ahead of the second place competitor, considered a big lead in this game.

In the last shot, he didn't repeat his previous mistake of cross-firing. However, he made a serious mistake of shooting 4.4 points (maximum point is 10.9). The gold medal slipped from his hands once again, he was so close to it. He ended up 4th place. His wife was in disbelieve watching the final shot by her husband.

Matthew looked a bit upset, there was nothing he could do. Still, he walked up to the gold medalist and congratulate him. The camera then showed his wife kissing him and hugging him by the head and her face still smiling, trying to comfort him. This really touched me, more than the fact that the gold was won by the Chinese.

 

   

 

 

 

PS:

Matt Emmons brought home the gold from the Athens Olympic Games in the men's prone event, but narrowly missed the mark in both three-position and air rifle. After taking time off for education, he is back in the saddle and ready for Beijing. Emmons is looking to defend his Olympic title and reach for the two medals that eluded him in 2004. Matt first began to shoot competitively in high school after Federal Bureau of Investigations firearms instructor Paul Adamowski invited him to give the sport a try. He quickly became passionate about shooting and learned that it would be an excellent way to earn scholarships for college. While he tried his hand all three Olympic disciplines, it was rifle that kept his attention. In 1997, after a little over a year of shooting, one of Matt's friends talked his father into allowing him to compete in an international shooting event. It was there that he was able to rise above the field and catch the eye of USA Shooting by winning both the prone and 3X40 events. Just one short year later when Matt, only 17 years old, won the prone competition at the National Championships and was named to the National Rifle Team. Today, Matt is an Olympic champion focused not only on bettering his performance in the next Olympiad, but on living his life to the fullest. When he has time to visit Alaska, Matt enjoys camping, hiking, fishing and cross country skiing.

Did You Know?

Matt married Katerina (Katy) Kurkova in Pilsen, Czech Republic on June 30, 2007. Katy and Matt first met at the 2004 Olympic Games in Athens. Katy is a 2004 Olympic Bronze Medalist as well as a 2002 World Champion. Matt has already qualified for the 2008 U.S. Olympic Team in two events and Katy is also a top prospect to make the 2008 Team for the Czech Republic. They both live and train at the Colorado Springs, Colo. Olympic Training Center. A graduate of the University of Alaska, Fairbanks, Matt says that he wants to make the state his home following his Olympic career. "It has a small town feel, and the people from the area are so supportive. I just love it there." Matt owns an electric guitar. He purchased a book to teach himself how to play in 2005, and says that he has gradually improved while practicing in the athlete dorms. This rifleman is not just about shooting around the range. Matt once pitched a perfect game for his high school baseball team in Pemberton, N.J. Matt also holds a degree in management and finance from the University of Colorado, Colorado Springs.

 

Thank you for revision and correction,my sister CoCo,you are freaking beautiful and indeed deserve to find some awesome and well-connected one !Have a wonderful holiday in SH!

 

<Balance>VS<Ke Ke Xi Li>: which one is actually to document?

Part1:

The movie<Ke Ke Xi Li> in 2004 is recognized as a miracle in domestic film industry. It is a really hit that not only bags the Tokyo Jury Prize but also receives cheers and wows from domestic people, furthermore it is said that this household-name film really overwhelms all critics. Based on ‘the reality of power’ and ‘the beauty behind cruelty’, it founds its fame in academic world, quoted Li Zehou as saying：‘<Ke Ke Xi Li>is a revolution in Chinese Film Aesthetics’,especially the cool style of documenting is a big reason for its popularity.

 

The success of <Ke Ke Xi Li> largely bases on its background facts, those are the important elements of epic; the original shape of overwhelming; the natural power of the truth; the violent behaviors lived in the event and the heroine image of characters. It is a little bit regretful that this movie fails to peak under these advantages. The ones never hear about any story of the nature reserve maybe will be probably stunned by the film, but why we don’t listen to voices from netizens first.(PS: quoted from BBS WANGYI)

 

 “Comparing with <Balance>, some entertainment elements have been added to <Ke Ke Xi Li>which provides more visual pleasures but lessens the idealistic power of real, which can make people awaken to the truth. There is nothing wrong for a film like this to be a little stray away from the truth, you know even though a documentary it is, and sometimes to some extend it is also an entertaining film, but what is unforgiving is that this film has been marked to be ’absolutely true’ and ’real story with real people’ when <Ke Ke Xi Li>starts to screen! It does not pay tribute to the lives of successive leaders of the patrol team, does not respect the plain, natural sentiments of members of the team! What this hit has done is just to pocket enough box offices as much as possible and to win the kind of praises from the audience after shedding tears.”

 

The <Balance> is a documentary concluded in 2000, which is a predecessor to <Ke Ke Xi Li>.The director, Peng Hui, is a quite famous director for documentaries. His <Invisible Mountain> once won the highest prize of the twelfth International Artistic Film Festival in Hungary, which is the Jury Prize. The <Balance>lasts for 168mins, which has been shot for 3 years and full of hardships, and it also won the Best Documentary Prize of the nineteenth TV Golden Eagle Award of China. The <Balance> did not make publicity like <Ke Ke Xi Li>, only played in a small range, however it received a widespread praises and touched most of people. This kind of shock originates from the brutality hidden in the truth and ordinary matters. One volunteer said like this: ‘the <Balance> is a piece of work out of conscience and poignancy. ’

 

Although for the difference between the documentary and narrative film, it’s no sense to compare the advantages and disadvantages between them in documenting, with the comparison of the methods adopted to characters and events, still we can observe the differences in the ideological level and in the subject depth <Balance> can transmit a kind of breath-taking shock, but <Ke Ke Xi Li> is far from that.

 

Part2:

The description of the characters is always criticized by public, primarily because this play has failed to expose the inside of characters deeply. This film has wasted a great number of long-standing and long-extending materials just to meet the traditionally domestic mode of expressing the opposite characters. Evidently Lu Chuan plans to make a group of heroes in <Ke Ke Xi Li>, but it is a pity that these images of the inner world, do not have the human nature flashes, lack power etc, the images shaped in the film are quite similar to those ‘perfections’ always seen in traditional domestic movies, the characters in the movies are all lack of the burly, robust and tough elements which the tableland people always possess.

 

From beginning to end, the expressions and characters of members of that patrol team are so intangible; their names only are referred almost at the end of the film. Even the image of Ritai which the director has labored on creating also seems to be of lackluster; Audience still don’t know the motivation to risk his life protecting antelopes until he was shot to death by poachers. The Taba Dorje likes an eagle flying under the sky of Ke Ke Xi li, so viable and strong in the <Balance>, but changed into someone quiet and silent but determined enough which fits perfectly the positive images in Chinese movies. The special temperament of Tibetan people, the idealism inside and the glamorizing faith of Taba Dorje are all wiped out in <Ke Ke Xi Li>.

 

The lines for Ritai is not much and what he talks to the reporter about the dubious business of selling the chamois is also a reflection of himself:’ I know you are a reporter, and you reporters are protecting Ke Ke Xi Li. I can be a prisoner for selling the chamois illegally, but at present I don’t want to consider what you said, what I have to consider is just Ke Ke Xi Li and my followers. Have you even seen the pilgrims, their faces and hands of pilgrims who prostrate themselves to show respect to Budda, couldn’t be dirtier, but their hearts are so clean. ---I sold chamois before but I had no choice.’ The lines here are so simple and plain but too literate to sound like a local Tibetan people. While in <Balance> Taba Dorje told a quite similar situation:

 

 ‘At that time when we almost arrived here we were short of food, without any MoMo, meat, we had nothing at all, and shortly after that we could not hold on any longer. Most of our teammates had been starved off for a few of days and nights. I looked at the faces of my teammates and then the group of antelopes just in front of us.I made a decision.You knows what? I killed one! Just made it as our food! I shot by myself. I was afraid that if it had been shot by others maybe it would hurt others. I am a good shooter and also a protector. But in that case many teammates would have been starved to death if I had not done that. Maybe some thought I was wrong, but I still would do the same thing as I had no choice at all! If it should be investigated, my Taba Dorje would hardly escape from any responsibility.’

 

<Balance> unfolds its story mainly through the ways of Taba Dorje narrating in front of cameras, this kind of flowing and consisting confessions pervades in this film. The true man told his ideal, persistence and hard works, as well as his puzzles and worries with no  stagey actions. His last narrative was shot in a hotel in Beijing, he exclaimed ‘not fear death I do!’ But only a few days later in his home in Yushu Qinghai, he was shot by a stray bullet to death and which also ripped off all hopes of the patrol team. When the director Penghui rushed from Chengdu to Qinghai he had been celestial buried. Every man of conscience bleeds from heart when he follows Peng’s camera to listen to the mourning narratives of Taba Dorje’s family members and watch the site of the celestial burial. This kind of intriguing glamour of human nature, and the solemn and stirring but brutal facts are all the heights <Ke Ke Xi Li >fails to reach.

 

Part3:

Although set this story background in such a high tableland with 4700meters above the sea level, the <Ke Ke Xi Li> builds the old molds of opposition of characters. The tearjerker stuffs are just only the elements Lu Chuan dragged to make a story. In this strongly biz-sense film there are only poachers and anti-poachers, hatred and bullets; The direction has not made the substantive effort to reveal the hidden social essence and social structures which make you contemplate. According to this it is pretty hard for this film to culminate at a high pitch.

 

In fact, the most grieving element for the patrol team is not the tough living conditions and the struggle with the poachers, but their own living status without authority, outlay, and support from society and government; it is mainly due to the ingrained social problem. It is a great mission and responsibility to reflect these crucial social facts for a solemn movie, contritely <Ke Ke Xi Li> only focuses on the former one.

 

<Ke Ke Xi Li>has a very gripping-heart plot: Qiangba, a member of the patrol team was killed---the reporter came to Hoh Xil to join the patrol team---they encountered the poachers couple of times during the patrol, also faced some tougher conditions such as the dispersion of their teammates and the food shortage---in the end Ritai was shot to death by poachers ---the reporter worked a widely shocking report after he came back to Beijing. In this story, there are struggles between human and wilderness rough natural environment, for example, someone in the team suffered from the lung edema and Liu Dong was swallowed by the quick sand; also is plentiful with conflictions between the justice and the evil, like the pursuit along the bank of Cushier river and the death of Ritai. The western exotic landscape, the desert and the gunfire as well as the death provide the audience with a wide but desolate picture, which means a flood of brand-new impact to audience who has been used to the melodramas. But unsuccessfully we can not get the cordial and true-to-life experiences about the real life person and environment when watching the film.

 

It is said that the original play of Luchuan attracted the investment from the Hollywood’s clients, which was a much commercialized play script full of various conflictions between the secret police, poachers and the patrol teammates a little familiar with the American western movie mold. Then when Luchuan arrived at Hoi Xil he casted away all the original ideas but resorted to documentary. However the trick of documenting in <Balance> is well ahead of that of <Ke Ke Xi Li> which seems to be clumsy and not sincere enough. The prior name for <Ke Ke Xi Li>was <Patrol Mountain> which is quite similar to the name of his maiden work <The Missing Gun>.In some sense the motivation of him to shoot is not the spirit itself there but the stories can be made. Ultimately to some sense this is a story of Luchuan instead of the ones from Hoi Xil. On account of these issues it’s not difficult to understand why this film fails to touch the deepest contradiction behind.

 

The audience who watch the <Balance> cannot forget what Taba Dorje talked in front of camera with tears flowing down that are the voices from his deep heart.---a Hero's helpless situation, This is a scene which is more impressive than the windchill in tableland and the gripping pursuit. This is the real life said by Lu Xun.

 

“What should I do, I have so many followers to raise! But what is it I can get hold of to protect these large mining resources and the wildlife resources, what the hell is that?!It is an impoverished town of Zhiduo that the local government cannot afford any bill. The local government doesn’t chicken out coughing up, in fact he has no ability at all. He cannot pay any money for his workers whereby he can afford to build this or that kind of institutions and reserves, I feel so unfair still. God damn it! It is all up to us to protect and work when it is urgent, but when it is time to get money it doesn’t turn to us. It is totally unfair. We can’t get the salaries for a couple of months, but we only can grit our teeth and hold on just keeping some wishes to do something for our future generations, and we, all guys, all feel it is worth indeed, but how about those few bastards around---I have to endure! I don’t fear to die!”

 

It takes three years to shoot <Balance>, the director Penghui spent much time living with the patrol team and Taba Dorje, experiencing all trials and tribulations in those desolate and bleak areas, thus Penghui has a great known about the state of mind of those teammates and their economical difficulties. What does Penghui shoot are the optimism, strength and friendship exuded from the teammates; what does Penghui present is they are driven from pillar to post just to collect funds; what does Penghui display is the obstacles that hamper their ideals of protection. He said:’ I adopted some tricks called’ the real movie’ in <Balance>,with no line at all just to keep those original images I captured during shooting, I want to make it as true as possible then screen to public, hopefully they can perceive the real state of this patrol team.’ Pitifully this kind of creation principles lacks in <Ke Ke Xi Li> in which the ideas of director take the priority. The so-called truth which <Ke Ke Xi Li> always claims is just a mask worn over its commercialized quality. It is totally partial to flatter the value of <Ke Ke Xi Li> base on ‘true-to-life’!

 

Part4:

When the time for publicity <Ke Ke Xi Li> sounds to be a documenting film, Luchuan quoted as saying:’ If you felt it was a documentary that was a praise for me. Actually my movie completely makes, we are making a narrative movie, but we wish to make it true and viable enough. I wanna find a way where the documentary and narrative film are intertwined perfectly. ’Actually this also accounts for all flaws of this movie.<Ke Ke Xi Li>strays from ‘documenting ’to ‘narrating’ with no definite style at all which leads to the dimness of the theme itself---not only lack of the sincere and harsh part of documentaries but also short of the intense conflicting plots of the classical narrative films.

 

Take two scenes as samples, one is the pursuit along the bank of Chushu’er river and another is the scene of Liudong swallowed by the quick sand, they are some small peaks in this film, with very clean clipping and delicate skipping tricks. After the scene of Liudong the film takes three clean views successively just to display this wordless and desolate wasteland. But unfortunately because of the intense traces of manual workings it does largely lessen the touching power initial. The film cannot satisfy its ambition set at the beginning through the ways of chronicle, single-side and linearity which are the methods often used in documentary, thoroughly the film has very few suspense, conflictions of dramas, creative perspectives and flexible ways to jump in the space-time. Therefore it does no wonder for <Ke Ke Xi Li> to fail to narrate this epic story. In fact the ways of telling story in this film have vastly deprived the charisma of the original story itself.

 

The image of reporter embedded ruthlessly adds few lusters to this film. This kind of documenting named as “recording through media’s camera” has been rampant in western countries with no innovation at all. What is more attributing to its prosperities of exclusion, alienation and spying the whole film just follows the trends of authoritative voices stepping behind the discourse of government. All the way the audience can only perceive the novelties of Hoi Xil and meet their curiosity through following what the reporter presents consistently.

 

Furthermore much passion and faith has been added into this film by the director, in the press conferences he stressed several times in a poetic way to interpret the meaning of this film:”In Hoi Xil there is only one identity of every human, the death can easily befall; the life is so fragile but seemingly robust.””Through this I have found out what the true life stands for and what the real existence is” and “I want send the most tremendous impact on other’s soul and heart, and hopefully they can listen to my voices” and so forth. The hardships of shooting <Ke Ke Xi Li>wins a lot of fans before screening and the honesty of director touches audience also. Undeniably speaking, the brimmed-over emotions of director will cause inevitably to objective environment deficient realizing; Individual poem style's involvement will be inevitable to cause harm to the movie pursue “solemn”, “objective”.

 

Contrary Penghui took part in this campaign as a reporter outside, in <Balance> the audience hardly find any trace of interviewing and shooting, from beginning to end, it’s Taba Dorje and his patrol team to face straightly viewers and unfold their life and soul directly. The accomplishment of it is closely associated with Penghui’s creation principles.”I want to make the creation of documentary as a copy of the real life that I have kept on for years. There is only one way left for <Balance> to portray the real life despite millions of ways in fact, by which no line is out there but the narration from Taba Dorje instead. Because of the particular identity of the patrol team itself and the torrid situation they are stuck in, there is nothing astounding more than the narration from Taba Dorje himself. There is no need for Taba Dorje to cover something glamorizing or murky attributing to his charisma, in the meanwhile through which <Balance>has been granted to life. I am so satisfied with I have done in my own way.”What the director have been toiling away on is so great that touches considerably every sincere heart that watched this movie.

 

With the same materials about the patrol team in Hoi Xil ,it has been shot to totally different styles, it is related to different artistic features between the film and documentary but also has a tight tie with the personality of the directors. Luchuan was deeply shocked in front of what he had seen in Hoi Xil, he want to convey these feelings to viewers as soon as possible. In Luchuan’s thoughts there is a layer of philosophy so it has no doubt to find the elements of poem in this film but also for it, this film cannot reach the core value of this reality behind. While Penghui seems to be maturer and calm experienced, he is very adept in reappearing the factual power and leading the audience to a serious meditation.

 

Above all, the accreditations of ‘the reality of power’ and ’the beauty behind cruelty’ should be lauded to <Balance> rather than <Ke Ke Xi Li> ,which has a same theme but plays as a business entertainment film. The name ‘Patrol Mountain’ should be more proper for <Ke Ke Xi Li> since it is just a story made by Luchuan with his few experiences in Hoi Xil and some inconsiderable materials of environmental protection. Plus we can only touch these below in <Balance>,the real smell of Hoi Xil wasteland and the real picture of the western wild-yak patrol team, the touching legends of human beings on this land and the ideals, blood, sweat and tears of environmental protectors.